Moms are Different
Not all moms can cope, mentally, with staying home with their little ones full time.
Not all moms can cope, emotionally, with going to work every day and leaving their little ones behind full time.
Not all moms can choose whether they will work or stay home with their little ones; these moms often wish they could stay home but if they were to stay home many would find they prefer working because most any job is less fatiguing than caring for a little one, full time.
Not all moms can deal with not getting a date night at least once a month with their partners.
Not all moms can find the time and energy to arrange for a sitter, get ready to go out and make plans for a date night once a month, or for some moms, even once a year!
Some moms bottle-feed, some moms breast-feed.
Some moms drink alcoholic beverages when they're nursing, they 'pump and dump' (as one friend called it)!
Other moms choose not to drink alcoholic beverages when nursing.
Not all moms can manage to fix their hair or paint their nails on a monthly basis; some moms can't do these things on an annual basis, while some moms may forfeit shaving, covering gray hair and wearing make up all together for an undisclosed amount of time.
Then there are moms that cannot function without having their hair styled and nails manicured, it's part of their identity.
Not all moms wear their babies in age-old, yet new-age carriers, while some moms wear their babies constantly.
Not all moms have special needs children to care for, while many moms do have special needs children to care for.
Not all moms use pacifiers to soothe their little ones, some moms can't imagine not having the pacifier as a soothing option.
Not all moms give up on their workout routine after the baby is born, many moms do, many moms are too tired and don't have the time to keep it up. Some moms are able to continue working out up until baby becomes mobile at which point it becomes too hard to maintain the routine.
Not all moms are comfortable with cry it out sleep training methods, some moms are comfortable with cry it out sleep training methods.
Not all moms do the dishes daily, some moms do. Some moms have dishwashers, some moms don't.
Not all moms choose the no-or-very-little-tv-rule for their homes since a little one is present, some moms do.
Not all moms read books and magazines on child rearing and breastfeeding, while many moms rely on this literature to offer ideas, perspective and the latest research.
Not all moms bathe with their little ones or sleep with their little ones, some moms do.
Not all moms feed organic only, some moms do.
Not all moms remember their children's exact birth weights and lengths no matter how much time passes, some moms have this information ingrained in their memories.
Not all moms keep a baby book, some do.
Not all moms take pictures every day, some do.
Not all moms restrain from screaming or losing their tempers with their little ones 100% of the time, some moms are able to restrain from screaming or losing their temper- maybe most of the time.
Not all moms feel eager to have baby number 2, 3 or 4, some moms do feel eager to have baby number 2, 3, or 4.
Not all moms are decided as to whether they want baby 2, 3 or 4 then too much time passes and they're left with what they've got.
Not all moms enjoy taking their little ones out to eat or shopping, some moms relish in taking their little ones out to eat or shopping.
Not all moms find peace on long car rides with baby in tow; some moms may feel they're on the brink of insanity on long car rides with baby in tow.
Not all moms need medication to treat depression after a baby is born, some moms do need medication to treat depression after a baby is born.
Not all moms struggle with weight loss after baby is born, some moms struggle with maintaining a healthy weight after baby is born and some moms do have a hard time losing the extra weight after baby is born.
Not all moms have family support to rely on, not all moms attend play groups, some moms do have family support and attend play groups and still feel exhausted and overwhelmed.
Not all moms start saving for college by baby's 2nd birthday, some moms do start saving for college by baby's first birthday.
Not all moms say no sweets what so ever for the little ones, some do say no sweets what so ever for the little ones.
Not all moms worry on a weekly basis about what's around the corner in the child's life (daycare, potty training, teething, sleeping through the night, starting school, learning to swim, etc), many moms do worry about these things on a weekly, some maybe even a nightly basis.
Not all moms have pets at home, some moms do have pets at home.
Not all moms have a partner at home, some moms do have a partner at home.
Some moms have partners they're not happy with, many moms have partners they are happy with... but feel their partners will never fully grasp the amount of work they do on a daily basis as a, you guessed it, mom.
As mothers we're all very different but we also have a lot in common.
Not all moms can cope, emotionally, with going to work every day and leaving their little ones behind full time.
Not all moms can choose whether they will work or stay home with their little ones; these moms often wish they could stay home but if they were to stay home many would find they prefer working because most any job is less fatiguing than caring for a little one, full time.
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| My son and me |
Not all moms can deal with not getting a date night at least once a month with their partners.
Not all moms can find the time and energy to arrange for a sitter, get ready to go out and make plans for a date night once a month, or for some moms, even once a year!
Some moms bottle-feed, some moms breast-feed.
Some moms drink alcoholic beverages when they're nursing, they 'pump and dump' (as one friend called it)!
Other moms choose not to drink alcoholic beverages when nursing.
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| Beer |
Not all moms can manage to fix their hair or paint their nails on a monthly basis; some moms can't do these things on an annual basis, while some moms may forfeit shaving, covering gray hair and wearing make up all together for an undisclosed amount of time.
Then there are moms that cannot function without having their hair styled and nails manicured, it's part of their identity.
Not all moms wear their babies in age-old, yet new-age carriers, while some moms wear their babies constantly.
Not all moms have special needs children to care for, while many moms do have special needs children to care for.
Not all moms use pacifiers to soothe their little ones, some moms can't imagine not having the pacifier as a soothing option.
Not all moms give up on their workout routine after the baby is born, many moms do, many moms are too tired and don't have the time to keep it up. Some moms are able to continue working out up until baby becomes mobile at which point it becomes too hard to maintain the routine.
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| woman exercising |
Not all moms are comfortable with cry it out sleep training methods, some moms are comfortable with cry it out sleep training methods.
Not all moms do the dishes daily, some moms do. Some moms have dishwashers, some moms don't.
Not all moms choose the no-or-very-little-tv-rule for their homes since a little one is present, some moms do.
Not all moms read books and magazines on child rearing and breastfeeding, while many moms rely on this literature to offer ideas, perspective and the latest research.
Not all moms bathe with their little ones or sleep with their little ones, some moms do.
Not all moms feed organic only, some moms do.
Not all moms remember their children's exact birth weights and lengths no matter how much time passes, some moms have this information ingrained in their memories.
Not all moms keep a baby book, some do.
Not all moms take pictures every day, some do.
Not all moms restrain from screaming or losing their tempers with their little ones 100% of the time, some moms are able to restrain from screaming or losing their temper- maybe most of the time.
Not all moms feel eager to have baby number 2, 3 or 4, some moms do feel eager to have baby number 2, 3, or 4.
Not all moms are decided as to whether they want baby 2, 3 or 4 then too much time passes and they're left with what they've got.
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| My friend, Molly's two sweet boys |
Not all moms enjoy taking their little ones out to eat or shopping, some moms relish in taking their little ones out to eat or shopping.
Not all moms find peace on long car rides with baby in tow; some moms may feel they're on the brink of insanity on long car rides with baby in tow.
Not all moms need medication to treat depression after a baby is born, some moms do need medication to treat depression after a baby is born.
Not all moms struggle with weight loss after baby is born, some moms struggle with maintaining a healthy weight after baby is born and some moms do have a hard time losing the extra weight after baby is born.
Not all moms have family support to rely on, not all moms attend play groups, some moms do have family support and attend play groups and still feel exhausted and overwhelmed.
Not all moms start saving for college by baby's 2nd birthday, some moms do start saving for college by baby's first birthday.
Not all moms say no sweets what so ever for the little ones, some do say no sweets what so ever for the little ones.
Not all moms worry on a weekly basis about what's around the corner in the child's life (daycare, potty training, teething, sleeping through the night, starting school, learning to swim, etc), many moms do worry about these things on a weekly, some maybe even a nightly basis.
Not all moms have pets at home, some moms do have pets at home.
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| My son with 2 pet-sitting customer doggies |
Not all moms have a partner at home, some moms do have a partner at home.
Some moms have partners they're not happy with, many moms have partners they are happy with... but feel their partners will never fully grasp the amount of work they do on a daily basis as a, you guessed it, mom.
As mothers we're all very different but we also have a lot in common.
We all have good days and bad days. We're doing the best we can at any given moment... some women's 'best' may be better than other women's 'best'... it is what it is.
And we all know that mothering is not for the faint of heart!
So, today, as a mom, do something to help take care of yourself... then try to make it a habit! ;)
And we all know that mothering is not for the faint of heart!
So, today, as a mom, do something to help take care of yourself... then try to make it a habit! ;)
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